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Teen Sexting = big trouble.

Episode #592 — February 27, 2018

A woman gave her husband permission to see an escort when he was out of town. But she didn't give him permission to spend a small fortune on her!! An open-minded straight man has had quite enough with the sexual cavorting that takes place in his gym's hot tub, thank you very much! Is he being homophobic? Should he rat them out? On the Magnum, kids are getting in big trouble for sexting, sending pics and other activities that most teens routinely engage in. Dan speaks with Robby Soave from Reason.com about the need to lawyer up if your kid faces such a threat. How can a woman explain to her newly divorced father that she suspects he's gay, and that it's a-ok with her?
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Whoa, no way! It's Sarah Silverman!

Episode #587 — January 23, 2018

This week Dan caught up with Sarah Silverman to chat about her show "I Love You America." They also answered some callers' questions about conquering jealousy, and kids sticking things in their butts, among other things. She is a superior human and you should listen to the whole thing. A sub woman has been chatting with a dom. But he lacks experience, and he's maybe too short? How can she end it without offending him? Also, a woman just can't reclaim the inherent sexiness of her breasts after nursing her child. How can she get her boob-pleasure back? And, so, so, so much more. 206-302-2064
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With MTV's Ira Madison III.

Episode #510 — August 2, 2016

A man has started dating a woman he suspects is a virgin. She's hot, but he doesn't want to have to teach her about sex. Should he bail, or give her a few lessons? A woman fell into bed with a man so drunk, that he didn't remember going down on her. Now he's asking her friends what happened that night. Should she tell? On the Magnum, Dan chats with MTV's Ira Madison III about the complex issues that come with being a black man with submission fantasies. And, the sleepover that fried a mother's brain. 206-302-2064
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Second Opinion with Mallory Ortberg.

Episode #480 — January 5, 2016

In two separate calls, straight men are harassed by their gay male friends. One caller had his buddy drunkenly grope him. The other’s pal assails him with aggressive sexual innuendo. Knock it off fellas! A married woman has a husband who doesn’t trust her. She comes home late from her bar job and he assumes she’s cheating on him. She’s never been unfaithful. How can she turn this ship around? On the Magnum, Dan gets a Second Opinion from Mallory Ortberg, Slate’s delightful, new “Dear Prudie” advice columnist. Dan throws Mallory in the deep end with a call from a woman whose 60 year-old housesitter might have riffled through her sex toy drawer, and concludes with a call from the brother of a child rapist. Welcome to the advice business, Mallory! 206-302-2064
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The complicated nature of abusive relationships.

Episode #449 — June 2, 2015

The complicated nature of abusive relationships: Dan speaks with Seattle author Jason Schmidt about his memoir "A List of Things That Didn’t Kill Me," a raw, honest look at the mix of neglect, abuse and fierce love in his own upbringing. You should buy this book, and then read it. Also, a gay man is about to go to drama school at a conservative Christian college. Should he stay in the closet just long enough to graduate and then begin the lifelong project of exacting his revenge? On the Magnum, a straight man is friends with a transwoman. Once she got her surgery, she’s suddenly super-hot to the caller. Is it time to make a move? And, breast milk: It’s not just for babies anymore! 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Harrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan" when you check out. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.
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Dan "Asks Amy" for a Second Opinion.

Episode #401 — July 1, 2014

A gay man appears to be a straight man magnet. Straight men declare their love for him more than gay men do. Why? And how can he make it stop?! Meanwhile, in the mountains of Alaska, a couple have reached the divide where one of them wants kids and the other doesn't. One of them will win. One will lose. On the Magnum, it's our second Second Opinion! This time, with "Ask Amy's" Amy Dickinson who braves some raunchy territory with naughty Dan Savage. Also, Alice Dreger on talking to your kid about pornography. 206-201-2720
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Hot Fireman!

Episode #390 — April 15, 2014

Dan counsels a woman in yet another a conservative small town on how to help her lesbian daughter make it out of there alive. A gay man has gone above and beyond to fulfill his partner's fireman fantasy. How can he get a little reciprocation? For the Magnum version's "What You Got," Dan speaks with Amy Muise on why women monitor their partners on Facebook. Fat, nerdy virgin seeks super-model: Men kind of think they can have anything they want, don't they? And more! Lots more! 206-201-2720
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An autistic virgin woman wants to get into the swinging lifestyle. Should she get sterilized now, or kick that can down the road? During a fight with his ex-girlfriend, a big man discovered that he likes getting slapped around a bit. How can he let future lovers know this, and get over his shame?  A woman on painkillers finds that she's turned on by the idea of a man "taking advantage" of her while she's blotto on meds. Is this a thing? Can it be done safely?  Silly kinkster! Everything is "a thing."  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.
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How do you hit on someone with Aspergers? This week on the Savage Lovecast, Dan speaks with Maxine Aston, author and relationship counselor who specializes in relationships and Aspergers Syndrome. Find her at www.maxineaston.co.uk Also, supporting sissy sons, kinky glitter and the damage that youthful experimentation can do.  Confidential to everyone who lost your virginity last night: Congratulations!  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.xandria.com. Enter the code SAVAGE and get 20% off your entire order. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at www.AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast Want to lend a hand in North Carolina? Go to www.protectallncfamilies.com
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Swoon! It's Ira Glass, off his perch at This American Life, to join Dan in dispensing both sex advice and fart jokes.  It's Ira as you've never heard him before... Don't miss this one. 206-201-2720     This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something and be sure to enter GGG  at checkout.    Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.   Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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