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Ever since her brother walked in on her masturbating as a child, our poor caller thinks about him when she’s fantasizing. How can she get her brother out of her sex-head? In other yucky family dramas, a woman’s father has advanced dementia, and tugs it openly, all the time. It’s gotten to the point where she doesn’t want to see a single penis- not even her dear boyfriend’s. How can she get her father out of her sex-head? Man. What is going on out there? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Emily Bazelon and Mistress Matisse about decriminalization of prostitution. And, even though gay marriage is finally legal in this country, a lesbian still finds the concept of a lesbian wedding ridiculous. Dan helps her tease her discomfort apart. 206-302-2064
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Episode 500! With David Schmader and Doc Barak.

Episode #500 — May 24, 2016

This is our 500th episode. And we’re just getting started! This week, Dan chats with stoner, writer and delightful person David Schmader about his book “Weed: The User’s Guide.” Speaking of green, Dan has a thing or two to say about the Green Party. A 24 year-old Texan woman worries that if she breaks up with her boooorrring boyfriend she’ll be called an “old maid.” And, guess who sashays in to harsh our mellow with “science?’ It’s Doc Barak! 206-302-2064 Thanks for listening for so long, you guys. Stick with us, won’t you?
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With Jillian Keenan and Joan Price

Episode #499 — May 17, 2016

What is the etiquette for when you run into someone who stood you up on a date? A woman’s friend is in a crappy marriage with 4 kids and a lying, cheating husband with a high profile in their church community. How can the caller convince her friend to DTMFA? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Jillian Keenan, author of “Sex with Shakespeare ” about vetting a dom, and her new book. Also, a caller wonders how to help his 96 year-old grandmother experience sexuality in her life. It’s Joan Price to the rescue! She and Dan discuss sex for the senior set. 206-302-2064
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With Anna Pulley

Episode #498 — May 10, 2016

A caller wonders if super-rich people are naturally less monogamous than the rest of us. In other inane questions, exactly which, and how many of One Direction are gay? On the Magnum, Dan takes a few lesbian-oriented calls with author Anna Pulley. And, in a “What You Got?” Dan interviews Lea Seguin on the men who fake orgasms and why they would do such a thing. 206-302-2064
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Alice Dreger on bikinis for tweens.

Episode #497 — May 3, 2016

A woman’s sister has been in a secret relationship for 7 years. Can or should she talk her sister out of what she thinks is an unhealthy relationship? A woman discovers that she gets off from spitting in her boyfriend’s mouth. Is this common? Is this wrong? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Alice Dreger, author of The Talk: Helping Your Kids Navigate Sex in the Real World about whether it’s cool to let your 12 year old daughter get that teeny-tiny, little bikini. And a shy straight guy can’t figure out how to ask a girl out even when she’s making ggo-goo eyes at him on the train. 206-302-2064
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Sex Toy Extravaganza!

Episode #496 — April 26, 2016

It's the sex toy extravaganza! After receiving a preternaturally high number of questions about sex toys, we decided to bring in a crack team of experts from women-centered, sex-positive stores across the US and Canada. What actually fits in a cock ring? How do you keep a dildo clean? What's the best restraint to start out with? Do sex toys carry emotional baggage? All these questions and more are answered for you. And additionally, on the Magnum, a man out on parole wonders when and how to tell the story of his crime. 206-302-2064 Thanks to the folks at She Bop, Babeland, Come As You Are and Womens Ware.
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Furries and Cheeseheads

Episode #495 — April 19, 2016

Furries and Cheeseheads: Join us in Madison, Wisconsin as Dan loves up his old college town. He took about a million questions from the audience and messed with their Midwestern heads.. On the Magnum, Dan chats with the charming hosts of Feral Attraction- the furry community’s sex and relationship advice podcast. Rrrowwrrr. 206-302-2064
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With Peggy Orenstein.

Episode #494 — April 12, 2016

A woman loves sexting with strangers she meets online. But she has no desire to meet in person. How and when should she let her fellas know this about her? What happens when homophobic parents never come around? Dan speaks with writer Aaron Hartzler, author of “Rapture Practice,” about coming out to intractable family. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Peggy Orenstein, author of “Cinderella Ate My Daughter” and “Girls and Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape” about the distorted expectations women face the in the bedroom. 206-302-2064
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Let’s just say your girlfriend gets turned on by listening to you talk to other people on the phone. Would it be so, so wrong to keep the customer service agent from Verizon on the line, just so your girlfriend can listen to you from the other room, masturbating furiously? A woman in an open marriage has started to see a woman. Her husband is fine with it. The caller is fine with it. The girlfriend is fine with it. So what’s the problem? Her friends! Her friends are NOT FINE WITH IT. Dan chats with Dr. David Frederick in a “What You Got?” about the successful strategies straight couple employ to have lasting relationships. And on the Magnum, Dan interviews the director and producer of “Give Me Sex Jesus” a documentary about the Christian Purity Movement. 206-302-2064
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With poly pioneer Allena Gabosch.

Episode #492 — March 29, 2016

The rarest of lovely creatures, a male unicorn, is ANGRY because he sees a double standard among the straight couples he joins. They reject him when they learn that he’s been with other men before them. Whaaaaaat? PSA: Couples! Treat your unicorns right, will you please? In a classic conundrum, a woman is attracted to her husband’s best friend. And Snapchat isn’t helping… On the Magnum, fall down the poly rabbit hole with Allena Gabosch, Founding Director of Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive Culture. She and Dan discuss strategies for making polyamorous relationships work.
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